Intermarriage – when Jews wed non-Jews – has been called a threat to the future survival of the Jewish nation. So what happened when there were reports that the Israeli prime minister’s son was dating a Norwegian non-Jew? The Norwegian daily Dagen reported that Ms Leikanger and Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu’s son Yair are a couple, to which the office of Mr Netanyahu has responded – according to Israeli media – by insisting they are only college classmates. But the damage has already been done. Leikanger is not Jewish, a fact that has sparked outrage in Israel, a Jewish country which since its inception has fought to have its Jewish character recognised throughout the world. While Judaism is not a proselytising religion, Leikanger, like any non-Jew, does have the option of converting should she wish to become Jewish.
Intermarriage and assimilation are quintessential Jewish fears and have been called a threat to the future survival of the relatively small Jewish nation. According to Jewish law, the religion is passed down through the mother, so if a Jewish man marries a non-Jewish woman, their children would not be considered Jews. The chance that children of a mixed couple would keep or pass along any Jewish traditions to future generations is radically diminished. As today’s rate of intermarriage among Diaspora Jews stands above 50%, many are worried that the nation that survived persecution, pogroms and the Holocaust could eventually die out of its own undoing.
The anxiety was expressed in an open letter to Yair Netanyahu by the Israeli organisation Lehava, which works to prevent assimilation, in a post on its Facebook page, which warned him that his grandparents “are turning over in their graves… they did not dream that their grandchildren would not be Jews”. The issue of intermarriage has largely been one for Diaspora Jews – the Jews who live outside Israel. Inside Israel, Jews (75% of the population) and Arabs (21%) rarely marry, but with an influx of foreign workers and globalisation of the Israeli community, in recent years the phenomenon has come to light. “God forbid, if it’s true, woe is me,” says Aryeh Deri, leader of the Ultra-Orthodox Shas party, to a local radio station, lamenting the news that the prime minister’s son was dating a non-Jew. “I don’t like talking about private issues… but if it’s true God forbid, then it’s no longer a personal matter – it’s the symbol of the Jewish people.”
Eretz Nehederet, the popular Israeli satirical television show, aired a parody showcasing infamous historical oppressors of the Jews including the biblical Pharaoh and the Spanish inquisitor. The show culminated with Yair Netanyahu’s non-Jewish girlfriend, whom they called the “newest existential threat”. She sang about a shikse, a derogatory term for a non-Jewish woman, sarcastically crooning that she is “worse than Hitler”. But jokes aside, even the prime minister’s brother-in-law, Hagai Ben-Artzi, spoke out strongly on their affair, warning his nephew that if he doesn’t end his relationship with Leikanger, it is as if he is spitting on the graves of his grandparents. “From my point of view, if he does such a thing, I personally won’t allow him to get near their graves,” Ben-Artzi told an Ultra-Orthodox website. “This is the most awful thing that is threatening and was a threat throughout the history of the Jewish people. More awful than leaving Israel is marriage with a gentile. If this happens, God forbid, I’ll bury myself I don’t know where. I’ll walk in the streets and tear off my hair – and here this is happening.”
Anyone who has watched Fiddler on the Roof, where Tevye says his daughter is dead to him for marrying a non-Jew, knows the issue has always been a sensitive one among Jews.
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