by Jennifer Valentine-Miller
Living loss is a popular term used to describe something that is lost that causes us to grieve, be unhappy and live below our best. If we lose something important, even if relatively small like a set of keys, we can go into a mild state of panic, being barely able to focus on anything else until those keys are found.
Throughout life, there are so many losses that affect us in a similar way. The loss of a relationship, loss of health, loss of family and friends through migration, etc. We can become anxious, lose focus and function below our best. We can also become aware that we are living with a ‘gap’ in our lives and it can feel as if someone had died.
Whilst studying and attending this programm I found the principles of Elisabeth Kübler-Ross very interesting. You may have already come across this principle.
The Kübler-Ross model, or the five stages of grief, is a series of emotional stages experienced when faced with impending death or death of someone. You may find yourself experiencing these feelings, not necessarily in the order listed below:
Linear process and positioning – The 5 Stages:
• Shock and Denial
• Acceptance (is an ending that will bring a new beginning)
The grieving process can take up to 2 years. It could take longer for various reasons. You may not experience these feelings its exact order.
• Letter writing
• Keep a journal of thoughts and feelings
• Look at photographs
• Symbolically say goodbye
• Deal with unfinished business (get rid of any guilt, or pre-plans made)